Ok, so I went out with a guy for lunch a lil while ago. Interestingly enough, I came home and thought...."how did that go?" Well, my MMS family - I'll let YOU decide. Yes, I know - the only opinion that matters is mine and his, but don't you ever wonder whether your dates are typical/atypical, interesting/a snooze-fest? Well this time - you decide.
I'm going to tell this story as objectively as I possibly can, and let you - kind reader - let me know how it went. I'm curious to see if the responses will fall out along gender lines....without further ado, my date:
So, J calls me at 10:30 and asks me to meet him at Jason's Deli. Now, if you're unfamiliar, Jason's is definitely one-off from Mickey D's. I suggest a local sportsbar and he agrees to meet me at 12.
So, at 11:54 on the way there, I get a text "you're late", followed by a phone call. It's J, and he's there - and he's not feeling the location. He asks why I chose it, and I'm honest - I wanted a Smirnoff Ice with lunch. He says he doesn't drink, and doesn't go to bars...so I tell him to meet me in 3 minutes at Jason's deli.
We get there, and he's obviously nervous about the location change. "Are you okay with this...is this okay?" I smile sweetly and respond "it's fine", scanning the menuboard. No Smirnoff :-(. We ordered off the menu boards, then sat down to eat and talk.
Other highlights included:
* a discussion about how career-women approach dating, and how "career-women don't know how to act like women, dress like women and let a man be a man". He compliments me for dressing like a woman (I wore a wrap dress w/a lil cleavage, and boots).
* a discussion about who should/would wear the pants in the family (men v. women)
* a discussion about his frugality, and how he doesn't like to spend money (his words). Admittedly, he's opening biz and saving towards that effort.
* his tendency to ramble, talk for long periods and dominate the conversation (he's a litigator, so after he explained that I'll need to sometimes tap him to get him to shut up in his words, I teased him saying "it's ok - you're a litigator - it's what y'all do")
* how stakes are high for career minded professionals dating - the need to be selective about who you spend time with, etc
* how often each of us go out on dates (he's a 1-2 time/week person, me about once a week) vs. hanging out with friends (me again at once a week)
* his wanting to get to the eye doctor immediately after the date
* his plans to watch the game with his homeboy immediately after the date
* my plans to hit the bistro/club later this evening
exactly :58 minutes later, he asked "are you ready to go?" and walked me to my car.
So, I'll post my thoughts MUCH later. What do you think?
