Rate My Date!!!
Ok, so I went out with a guy for lunch a lil while ago. Interestingly enough, I came home and thought...."how did that go?" Well, my MMS family - I'll let YOU decide. Yes, I know - the only opinion that matters is mine and his, but don't you ever wonder whether your dates are typical/atypical, interesting/a snooze-fest? Well this time - you decide.
I'm going to tell this story as objectively as I possibly can, and let you - kind reader - let me know how it went. I'm curious to see if the responses will fall out along gender lines....without further ado, my date:
So, J calls me at 10:30 and asks me to meet him at Jason's Deli. Now, if you're unfamiliar, Jason's is definitely one-off from Mickey D's. I suggest a local sportsbar and he agrees to meet me at 12.
So, at 11:54 on the way there, I get a text "you're late", followed by a phone call. It's J, and he's there - and he's not feeling the location. He asks why I chose it, and I'm honest - I wanted a Smirnoff Ice with lunch. He says he doesn't drink, and doesn't go to bars...so I tell him to meet me in 3 minutes at Jason's deli.
We get there, and he's obviously nervous about the location change. "Are you okay with this...is this okay?" I smile sweetly and respond "it's fine", scanning the menuboard. No Smirnoff :-(. We ordered off the menu boards, then sat down to eat and talk.
Other highlights included:
* a discussion about how career-women approach dating, and how "career-women don't know how to act like women, dress like women and let a man be a man". He compliments me for dressing like a woman (I wore a wrap dress w/a lil cleavage, and boots).
* a discussion about who should/would wear the pants in the family (men v. women)
* a discussion about his frugality, and how he doesn't like to spend money (his words). Admittedly, he's opening biz and saving towards that effort.
* his tendency to ramble, talk for long periods and dominate the conversation (he's a litigator, so after he explained that I'll need to sometimes tap him to get him to shut up in his words, I teased him saying "it's ok - you're a litigator - it's what y'all do")
* how stakes are high for career minded professionals dating - the need to be selective about who you spend time with, etc
* how often each of us go out on dates (he's a 1-2 time/week person, me about once a week) vs. hanging out with friends (me again at once a week)
* his wanting to get to the eye doctor immediately after the date
* his plans to watch the game with his homeboy immediately after the date
* my plans to hit the bistro/club later this evening
exactly :58 minutes later, he asked "are you ready to go?" and walked me to my car.
So, I'll post my thoughts MUCH later. What do you think?
Comments
Okay, was this a date?
Firstly, it was too short, and ya’ll met up to discuss dating, instead of being on one. You spent too much time talking about the dating world, and less about each other, getting to know each other, or enjoying the company. It was a bad date in my book and was too short to prove it. The conversations were definitely not date like, the inflexibility of the venue is a turn off, he doesn’t drink and you do, so? Most guys would be more than willing to be flexible and accommodate, especially on first dates, dude sounds too uptight and has his own ideas on how dates should be, and how women ought to be, I have a feeling he is still to be surprised to discover how it really is out there.
Posted by: Shazza | January 30, 2009 09:31 AM
Oh my...
Posted by: IT | January 9, 2009 12:46 AM