Disclaimer: I love men, particularly black men. LOVE them. But because I love them, I'd rather pull their proverbial ho skirt, than keep ignoring them when they're "on one". And boy are they on one...
The broadest of brush strokes: Men of the masculism movement make my ass ache. Seriously, they make me cringe. From the most radical ones like Jimi Izreal and Blacktown.net, to middle of the anti-feminist road folks like Very Smart Brothas, men's rights advocates and their ilk, to quote-unquote those who "empathize with women" like Michael Baisden, Steve Harvey - they all make my ass twinkle. Even your everyday average "regular" guy, whose reaction to the feminist movement is to "empower women" to pay for dates, not collect child support, cater to their every whim, lower their expectations of men and feel guilty for making equal (or more money) because they have no ambition - they all scream Masculist to me.
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Why did I paint the black men I mentioned above with the broad masculist stroke? Let's see (all IMHO of course)...
- The radical masculists position: the women's rights movement is the cause for the destruction of the black family, the subjugation of the black man, and the creation of a race of ultimate Sapphires that dominate African American culture. They assert that the feminist movement now seeks higher status for women than for men, and as such - men are essentially deserved of free head/pussy as reparations for the gender war. Clearly, iCant.
- The midde of the road masculists: see all of the above, but with less fervor. The difference is in the delivery Instead of beating women over the head with a club, they lull them into submission with a "just keeping it real - just telling you what men really think/feel" lullaby...and still demand the aforementioned reparations. iRefuse.
- The women-empathizing masculists: the most insidious of the 3. They also believe most of the above, but fool women into thinking they actually like women, by suggesting that men are just "boys", their flaws are just "men being men", that men have no free will and as such...men must be treated like simple children. No expectations = no disappointment. Just coddle men, accept their trifling ways, and act like a woman from 1953, and you too will be graced and fortunate enough to land one of these manboys. iGuess.
Let me ask this question, and yes - it is a bit rhetorical: how do you empower men by victimizing them?
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And let me be clear - I am not a feminist. I would never profess this. I'm born in the wrong era, already benefitting from burned bras and marches. I'm not well versed in feminist issues and am definitely not suggesting that women should step over men to lead. If anything, I'm submissive...(and yes I said that with a straight face). I just don't think that my position as a woman should determine someone else's position as a man. That's some shaky ground to stand on, because hell - what if I become Chaz Bono tomorrow? Or Jessica Rabbit? Are you less masculine to the butch me, but more masculine to the super-femme me?
I love men. Men whose masculinity isn't threatened by a color, a new position, sexual experimentation, my aggressiveness, their immediacy, or.... anything. I love men whose bones, sinew, muscle, veins, brain knows they are men. I love men whose position as a man or gender role is not determined relative to my position as a woman. I love black men, in particular.
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I need you all, collectively, to give up this particular ghost. The most intelligent amongst you are becoming the most bitchified, and if we - as a community - are ever going to get it together, we need the smartest of you to understand this. Not the victimized you. The courageous you. Seriously. And call your brethren to the carpet. Your brethren that are in trouble (see article below), that are lost, that are underemployed, that are floundering. We ultimately need all of you.
author's note: I would never, ever hyperlink Blacktown or Jimi Izreal and give them free publicity. You want to find them, Google them. Both are known keyboard gangsters and I have a life - I refuse to kill braincells debating whether/not they're masculists or even the meaning of the term. I'm pretty sure they use Google alerts. Boys, if you do show up here, feel free to comment and if your comments are respectful...I may approve them ;-)